Better Ways of Starting Online Conversations - if you need some help!
In this Quartz article, Elizabeth Weingarten says that in the early days of the pandemic, she would ask friends and colleagues, “How are you doing right now?” It was an assumption-free way of showing she cared, but people began to respond in predictable ways: I’m hanging in there… I’ve got it better than those heroic first responders…“When we keep asking the same question,” says Weingarten, “or no question at all, we lose out on a chance for deeper connections with our conversation partners, who also happen to be the people we care most about. We are tricked into believing we know how they’re feeling or what they’re thinking, when we haven’t even scratched the surface.” Here’s a selection of her suggested alternatives:
- How are you taking care of yourself today?
- What’s the best thing that happened to you today?
- What’s the most generous act you’ve seen recently?
- What’s giving you hope right now?
- What’s a story – from a book, movie, article, conversation – that you’ve been gripped by recently? Why did it capture you?
- What habit have you started, or broken, during the quarantine?
- Which specific place in your neighborhood are you most looking forward to visiting when this is all over?
- What are some things you’ve realized you don’t really need?
- What’s something you miss that surprises you? What’s something you don’t miss that surprises you?
- What’s the latest thing you experienced that made you laugh, or cry?
- How do you want this experience to change you? How do you think it will?
- What do you hope we all learn or take away from this experience?
“20 Questions to Ask Instead of ‘How Are You Doing Right Now?’” by Elizabeth Weingarten in Quartz, April 10, 2020, https://bit.ly/2YzXpmu
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